
This is a modern memoir of a well known Detroit sports writer who took over management of the Have Faith orphanage in Port Au Prince, Haiti following the 2010 earthquake. Adorable, self-assuredly-cheeky three year old Chika was left there and the childless Albions basically adopted her and subsequently, sparing no money, took her to Detroit and around the world looking for a cure when she enveloped what all the oncologist told them was an incurable brainstem cancer known as a Deep Intrinsic Pontine Glioma (DIPG). She nevertheless died at age seven, in 2017. Ingeniously, he uses what appears to be magical delusions or even hallucinations of posthumous interactions and conversations with her to explore what her short life meant to him, and only late in the narrative admits that these postmortem connections were “all in my head.”
It is never made clear which flavour of Christianity he adheres to but the Albions both pray daily, and he never expresses any doubt about his God’s benevolence in spite of the contrary evidence of the cruel fate dealt to Chika. He seems to subscribe to the questionable religious explanation for the cruelties of life proposed by C.S. Lewis in The Problem of Pain. And with the extraordinary futile measures they undertook to prolong her life including having a feeding tube surgically inserted into her stomach, this book provides support for Ernest Becker’s thesis in his The Denial Of Death that humans are uniquely irrational when it comes to thinking about and dealing with death.
The pathos is extreme. Although it is never easy to know when it is time to give up hope and yield to fate, especially when children are nearing death, I found the measures undertaken by Albion to be irrational and unrealistic. I am well aware of ethical debates about such measures as inserting gastric feeding tubes for individuals who are clearly dying within a few weeks, often having debated such ethics in my career, although I am no longer required to participate in such agonizing decisions.
I will not be reading Albom’s most famous memoir, Tuesdays With Morrie, about his visits to a dying man, anytime soon, as I have read enough about death to last a long time. But I have been thankfully spared the need to care for dying close relative children, and will refrain from judging those who have had to endure this painful experience.
There are a couple of memorable relevant quotes:
“Sometimes life throws a saddle on you before you are ready to run.”
“One of the best things a child can do for an adult is to draw them down, closer to the ground, for better reception of the voices of the earth.”
The next book I read will have nothing to do with dying. This is a well-written easy-to-follow one-day short read, but not a pleasant one.
Thanks,
Andra


















